First time to Hawaii

Hello,

My wife and I are planning our first trip ever to Hawaii, and would
appreciate some advice from people familiar with the islands. Thanks
in advance for any help. We'll go for one week.

Here's what we want to do, not in any particular order:

1. See Pearl Harbor and a volcano or two
2. Play golf
3. Meet couples our age (we are early-30s)
4. Consume large quantities of alcohol in a fun setting
5. Enjoy the beach
6. Go on boating excursions (i.e. party boats)
7. Visit a museum or two to learn about Hawaii's history

We'd prefer to stay at a Hilton or Marriott as I have membership
points there - any good ones?

Overall, I'd say we are looking to spend in the $5K range for the
trip, not including airfare.

So...with those tidbits, any advice for us would be appreciated.
Thanks!