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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
I've known her for about 2 months online, and met her the other day.
She seems really nice, and I think I trust her, but my head is seriously questioning her motives. She claims to be willing to pay for my trip and her explanation is that it will make her family stop worrying about her. The trip will involve meeting her extended family for a few days, and exploring China for the rest of a month. I really like the idea of visiting China, but the more I think about it the more it seems too good to be true, and very suspicious. Several thousand dollars seems like a lot to pay to make your family stop worrying (even if they're only Australian dollars! ;-) ) It really comes down to two questions: 1. Is it plausible that a Chinese girl would be under this much pressure to have a boyfriend and/or be so devoted to her family that she'd pay this much to stop them worrying? 2. Is it likely that this could be a scam.... I don't know... maybe to sell me into slavery, ransom my family, or harvest my organs, or something like that? I feel stupid for suspecting this kind of thing, but once I'm over there I'll be pretty much at her mercy since I don't know the language or the culture at all. She could lead me anywhere, into any kind of trap. If this was an Australian girl I'd know it was a scam for sure. Am I stupid for considering this because she's Chinese? Thanks Pretend Boyfriend |
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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
I'm a Paralegal of over 110 court cases. Many investigations! Your
NUTS!!! |
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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
She said she has a large extended family. Most of them live in Beijing
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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
Could be legitimate. Consider she may have a relatively rich
traditional Chinese family and needs money for the 'wedding'. You being the groom to be. On the other hand she may be a courier and you will be carrying the 'goods' which could be drugs or counter-political material (Not good in China). You need to know a lot more than whaty you may have gleaned from a 2 month on-line experience. Other possibility is that she is being pressured into an 'arranged marriage' by her family and, if uncooperative may lose her inheritances. A 'boyfriend' would remedy such a situation for her. If you decide to go with this, make sure you inform CSIS (Canadian Security Intelligence Service and/or the RCMP well ahead of time. They may have some insights for you. On 6 May 2006 06:44:26 -0700, wrote: I've known her for about 2 months online, and met her the other day. She seems really nice, and I think I trust her, but my head is seriously questioning her motives. She claims to be willing to pay for my trip and her explanation is that it will make her family stop worrying about her. The trip will involve meeting her extended family for a few days, and exploring China for the rest of a month. I really like the idea of visiting China, but the more I think about it the more it seems too good to be true, and very suspicious. Several thousand dollars seems like a lot to pay to make your family stop worrying (even if they're only Australian dollars! ;-) ) It really comes down to two questions: 1. Is it plausible that a Chinese girl would be under this much pressure to have a boyfriend and/or be so devoted to her family that she'd pay this much to stop them worrying? 2. Is it likely that this could be a scam.... I don't know... maybe to sell me into slavery, ransom my family, or harvest my organs, or something like that? I feel stupid for suspecting this kind of thing, but once I'm over there I'll be pretty much at her mercy since I don't know the language or the culture at all. She could lead me anywhere, into any kind of trap. If this was an Australian girl I'd know it was a scam for sure. Am I stupid for considering this because she's Chinese? Thanks Pretend Boyfriend |
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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
maybe she is falling in love with you! Or she want to make friend with
you? I have never heard there is any slavery in China. She can afford studying aboard that means her family must not lack of money. And it is so surprising to hear that you are worry about all these strange things! |
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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
Coral wrote:
maybe she is falling in love with you! Or she want to make friend with you? Yes, those are the two most likely explanations and I probably am being silly, but I still find it a bit hard to understand. I have never heard there is any slavery in China. That was just wild speculation on my part. I know China is pretty modern, and not even an especially dangerous country for tourists. I'm just trying to think of motivations for her being willing to pay for my trip. She can afford studying aboard that means her family must not lack of money. Quite possible. She travelled quite a bit before coming to Australia to study, and now she has a job here. And it is so surprising to hear that you are worry about all these strange things! Why? Nothing is free! We're talking about a lot of money here. I think I'd be stupid not to dig into her possible motives. Your email address implies you're from China, so you know a lot more about the culture and maybe how Chinese girls think. Can you give me some insights into why you're so sure this is genuine? Pretend BF |
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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?
He he... I already did ask myself. Now I'm asking you!
I see where you're coming from, you're saying you can't think of any plausible bad motives. I'm approaching this from the opposite angle... trying to understand why she'd want me to come to China so much. I'll need a very good explanation for that, before I seriously consider going. There's a 99% chance I've just watched too many movies, but the consequences of the 1% could be pretty bad. PBF |
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