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A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?



 
 
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Old May 7th, 2006, 05:11 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Thanks... being used as a "mule" hadn't occurred to me. It's much more
plausible than the kinds of things I was imagining.

I've got until somewhere around Chinese New Year to think this over and
get to know her better. The language/cultural barrier could make it a
lot harder to detect any deception though.

Family pressures does seem like the most likely explanation, but as an
Australian I find it hard to relate to. I wouldn't pay $2-3000 to stop
my parents/grand-parents from nagging me.

PBF

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Old May 7th, 2006, 08:23 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Yeah, I come from China. I wish I could help you. Most chinese people
are friendly indeed.
In traditional chinese family, especially a large extended family as
you have said, parents are much more care about children's marriage
than any other country maybe. I think her parents are worrying about
her very much because she is not young now? BUt she is a very
independent girl and don't want to be restricted by her eldership. So
it is possible that she pay so much just to stop them worrying.
But she must have enough money I think! I don't have so much money so
I couldn't do this like her! Not every chinese girl thinks alike.

coral

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Old May 7th, 2006, 08:55 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Yeah, if I go ahead with this, I'm probably going to have to be quite
paranoid... and somewhat deceptive myself (double checking luggage
etc). There's lots of ways to test her motives beforehand as well.

She's 26, and it's possible she's interested in me, but I feel like I
have to discount that at the moment because if the unlikely scenario is
actually true, then that could be part of it. It's hard to fully trust
someone who's considering such a big expensive lie to her own family.
Even though it's possible that she's hoping it isn't a lie by the time
Chinese New Year comes around.

PBF

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Old May 7th, 2006, 09:04 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Thanks coral... that does help. It's good to know that someone Chinese
doesn't think this is completely ridiculous.

I'm not sure about her money situation. I don't know how she afforded
to travel before she came to Australia, but now I think she has an ok
job. She says she's not sure she'll be able to afford this. I'm
keeping my cards close to my chest at the moment, but if I do decide I
trust her, I'll probably pay for most/all of my own expenses.

PBF

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Old May 7th, 2006, 09:11 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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this sounds like a scam. first, she probably did not tell you about
her angry jealous boyfriend/husband in china, who is also a vicious
stalker and gang member. She wants to use you to make him jealous --
or as an excuse to dump him. You will be expected to fight him and his
gang to the death.

second, she probably wants to marry you for your green card or money.
so, she will trap you into some kind of crazy chinese marriage ceremony
and you don't even know it. once you are legally married in china, you
are legally married. she is entitled to austrailian citizenship and
1/2 of all your possessions when she divorces you. Can you say
alimoney?

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Old May 7th, 2006, 09:14 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Oh yeah, she could also be using you as a mule to help her smuggle
illegal drugs in and out of china. You will be helping her to carry
luggage and stuff through the border. The communists executes anybody
who smuggles drugs, so if you get caught, she will blame it all on you,
"I don't know anything about this, you know how westerners love drugs!"

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Old May 7th, 2006, 09:23 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Default A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?

Nah, I doubt I'll have to fight her real boyfriend... Based on the
preview for Fast and the Furious 3, I'll most likely have to race her
boyfriend in a hotted up street car... to the death! ;-)

You've come up with some interesting possibilities, and I'll keep them
in mind, but they seem too far fetched right now.

PBF

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Old May 7th, 2006, 09:28 AM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Default A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?

you better lsiten to this humpadinkie man.he is expert in scam because
he does it all the time.

Ira Humperdink MD schrieb:
this sounds like a scam. first, she probably did not tell you about
her angry jealous boyfriend/husband in china, who is also a vicious
stalker and gang member. She wants to use you to make him jealous --
or as an excuse to dump him. You will be expected to fight him and his
gang to the death.

second, she probably wants to marry you for your green card or money.
so, she will trap you into some kind of crazy chinese marriage ceremony
and you don't even know it. once you are legally married in china, you
are legally married. she is entitled to austrailian citizenship and
1/2 of all your possessions when she divorces you. Can you say
alimoney?


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Old May 7th, 2006, 03:27 PM posted to rec.travel.asia,soc.culture.china
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Default A girl wants to hire me as her pretend boyfriend for a trip back to China to see her family. Scam?

Is she willing to go with another man caucasian of course who speaks
mandarin? I like to know her answer and your answer. Let's see who says
what.

wrote in message
oups.com...
I've known her for about 2 months online, and met her the other day.
She seems really nice, and I think I trust her, but my head is
seriously questioning her motives.

She claims to be willing to pay for my trip and her explanation is that
it will make her family stop worrying about her. The trip will involve
meeting her extended family for a few days, and exploring China for the
rest of a month. I really like the idea of visiting China, but the
more I think about it the more it seems too good to be true, and very
suspicious. Several thousand dollars seems like a lot to pay to make
your family stop worrying (even if they're only Australian dollars!
;-) )

It really comes down to two questions:

1. Is it plausible that a Chinese girl would be under this much
pressure to have a boyfriend and/or be so devoted to her family that
she'd pay this much to stop them worrying?

2. Is it likely that this could be a scam.... I don't know... maybe to
sell me into slavery, ransom my family, or harvest my organs, or
something like that? I feel stupid for suspecting this kind of thing,
but once I'm over there I'll be pretty much at her mercy since I don't
know the language or the culture at all. She could lead me anywhere,
into any kind of trap.

If this was an Australian girl I'd know it was a scam for sure. Am I
stupid for considering this because she's Chinese?

Thanks

Pretend Boyfriend



 




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